Save My Own Marriage

how to save a marriage?

admin — Fri, 04 May 2012 08:57:59 +0000

my wife says she still loves me but is no longer in love with me. she says there’s no one else she wants to leave me for or anything though. i was hoping for tips or links to save a marriage because i love my wife and we have three kids also and i just don’t want it to end like this.

need ideas for my attempt at saving marriage…specifics if poss…?

admin — Thu, 03 May 2012 08:00:28 +0000

ok every1 who may have been there b4. I need specific ideas here. after 17yrs unforseen marital crisis hit me several mths ago. loss of degree of her love, still loves but like a friend, no intimate connection felt. initial shock reaction pushed her further away, panicked, came off as needy & demanding, pushed her to point of saying she wanted out.
got myself under control, regained my lost confidence, went to work on me. changed some day2day behaviors, analysed situation in depth, took self improvement courses. changes have been noticed, responses changed from ‘its been too long, pretending too long, its too late’ & ‘just dont feel it anymore’ to ‘give me time/space to work some things out’.
We are right together, no doubt there. know problem comes from me not having met her emotional needs, got lazy there, insensitivites as a guy, and taking for granted we always would be. seeing as things always seemed good, never worked on anything. didnt know she was feeling a disconnect and just pretending everything was ok.
know u cant ‘make’ some1 love u that way, but believe intimate love can be recultivated, connections re-found. either way, believe a marriage, especially a good1, is worth fighting for. she is worth fighting for. seeing as even as we go thru this we get along gr8, little tension, talk, laugh, etc. for me speaks to likelyhood of re-connecting, at least worth a try to know for sure. believe almost any marriage can be saved, done enough research on subject to know that.
know at this point its not my decision, may have to let her go if she chooses, but unlike some people who would just throw in towel, I am not prepared to give up so easily.
this marriage is worth a 2nd chance. I am committed if she allows it, to not make same mistakes ever again. I have learned where/how I went wrong,&how to meet a womans emotional needs, once we get back to couple status instead of living like friends. I feel thru intuition that somewhere deep down she knows we can make this right & when expressed that to her, she did not deny it. know that it hasnt been that long in the grand scheme of things, but living so close to some1 that u desire so much,& r so good together(other than my having taken her for granted in certain ways), after having ur love re-awoken, is very hard to do. she has also said that she wouldnt want another after me, makes me believe she knows we are right together, so if we cant make it, who can?
she has not asked for a divorce or seperation, just time/space,& when I said if you want a divorce, I’ll give it to u, whatever it takes to make u happy, she responded with noone is talking divorce yet, makes me believe shes waiting to see/feel something from me b4 she makes her ultimate decision. in terms of feel, having hard time generating an internal love feeling, to put out that vibe, while feeling such anxiety on this turn of events. so while I work on that, there must be some simple, subtle things that i can do to make her feel wanted, valued, loved etc. not to sound like a rookie, but been lontime since i tried to woo someone, a little rusty.
some say to recreate, re-do what was done the 1st time, problem there is respecting time/space, cant come home with flowers, go out on dates, little notes, little carresses etc. with 2 young children at home & busy schedule, adds more limitations. can’t do the traditional ‘dating’ type things.
any ideas? small, specific, subtle but noticeable ideas that would make a woman feel wanted, appreciated, loved, while in time/space mode? something that might just tip the scale a little? or should I just do nothing, sit by and hope?

I spend too much and have caused financial hardships in my marriage, how can I stop this behavior?

admin — Wed, 02 May 2012 07:50:08 +0000

I realize stop spending is the easiest solution. What I am looking for is tips on saving.

Married men or women can you give me tips on how to rekindle and save my marriage with my estranged husband?

admin — Tue, 01 May 2012 07:40:23 +0000

I don’t want to give up on our on again off again 16yr marriage although my husband strayed. We have 4kids and have been separated 2yrs. In the 2yrs we have worked really well at co parenting our kids. We do what is best for them at all times. Also, we haven’t argued in front of them nor did I let on to them that their father had an affair.

If I want to get his attention (after 2yrs) in an intimate way should I ease into this with subtle hints or go for it by undressing and inviting him to bed?

Do you believe any marriage can be saved no matter how bad it is?

admin — Mon, 30 Apr 2012 05:08:19 +0000

What are your best tips for making a marriage last in this easy divorce society?

How to help save marriage, way to improve marriage?

admin — Sun, 29 Apr 2012 04:02:39 +0000

I wanted to know whats the best tips to improve a marriage with? I found a good blog with a guide at http://www.helpsavemarriagenow.blogspot.com but really wanted some inside tips from people who have had a failed marriage go well. Thanks

Okay it’s time to share wedding saving tips?

admin — Sat, 28 Apr 2012 00:18:40 +0000

I’ll go first, of course these won’t work for EVERYONE but hopefully somebody.

A local church offers free marriage counseling, if we attend two sessions, it knocks our marriage license down to $5.00.

I bought my ring bearer pillow for $1.08 (with tax), at the Dollar Tree, (Dollar Tree is my friend) most pillow I saw were about $15!

I’m arranging my own (and my two bridesmaid’s) bouquets, buying the stuff from Walmart (also my friend).

Anybody have tips?

Does anyone have any $ saving tips on how to throw a cheap wedding reception? I need to find a place fast!?

admin — Fri, 27 Apr 2012 00:15:17 +0000

I already have and paid for the dress, the cake is being taken care of as well ( mother in law ) I found a church to do it for $150 flat but where I am having a problem is where the heck am I going to have my reception. We are using our economic stimulus. checks to get married. Our budget is $1,200. the church and marriage license fee’s have to come out of that money as well. I found flowers @ walmart and we are doing all of our own flowers. My boss is going to work out a deal with me for food because I work for a restaurant that he owns. I need a location is what I need and for cheap. I need some tips on like where to call I live in Bradenton Florida but just like suggestions of places that you might try that you know wouldn’t cost much. ANY leads will be helpful I am running out of time. Thank you in advance and if you have any other questions I will make sure and keep up on this to answer you ASAP if I left anything out. THANK YOU SOO MUCH if you help and please help if you can =)
I want it to be cheap but not cheasy. I really want to avoid a trashy wedding, I have an 18 months old daughter to support as well as work so thats why I resorted to asking you guys. The inlaws are getting too crappy with me about this and to be honest I’d rather not give them any more say so then they already have this is our wedding and I want it to be perfect.
OK the church rec center thing is a good idea but most churches wont let you bring alcohol on the church grounds. I was looking at the website that one of you guys posted in your answer and it gave me an idea to call motels and see about their meeting rooms. Also when using the fake flowers from walmart they actually are very reasonable. The bridesmaids and groomsmen all paid for their outfits as well. so thats less I had to pay too. I am trying to make it great food, good drink and a decent hall that can be decorated to the nines. I am not planning a dj just a good sound system with some cds I have been putting together for a while now.

Can someone give tips on how to save my marriage?

admin — Wed, 25 Apr 2012 23:46:32 +0000

give me two Tips on how to save a marriage?

admin — Tue, 24 Apr 2012 22:15:58 +0000

http://www.socyberty.com/Relationships/Ten-Tips-on-How-to-Prevent-a-Divorce.582859